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The Importance of Finding a Mirror

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Inquiry : Which emotional challenges have I been willing or able to reveal to others, and which do I keep to myself? Where have you been dedicated to reveal to others about your emotional challenges and where haven’t you?

Personal Integration: This practice can be done alone or with a friend, lover, or counselor. Take one to five minutes or longer to contemplate and answer the question. When done with another, it is essential that the listener remains neutral and encourages you by repeating this inquiry as needed to help maintain focus.  Remember that it takes great courage, humility and trust to discern when you haven’t been able to be authentic and open with others as to your inner experience.  Appreciate the part of yourself that has a hunger to share with close friends or a counselor.  Recognize that this isn’t reinforced very often in our culture.
Inquiry 2:  What are the central reasons that you don’t reveal your inner experience with those closest to you?
Personal Integration 2: Follow the same instructions as above in the monologue or repeating question format. Explore how much of not revealing yourself has to do with fear of rejection, or distrust of others.  As you go through this questioning be sure not to automatically believe your own statements, as often we think we are unworthy when we aren’t, that others are untrustworthy when they aren’t, or even that we are trustworthy when are not.  Seeing the rationalizations for not sharing our inner experience can lead to a major breakthrough.  At the same time it is important to be discerning of who we choose to share with when we open to our experience, as most people are not familiar with this kind of intimacy  During this inquiry, look into all of these aspects.
Inquiry 3: How appreciative do you feel you are of your desire to be open and authentic?  If there isn’t any hunger ask yourself why not, or what has extinquished it in your life?
Personal Integration 3: Follow the same instructions as above in the monologue or repeating question format.  Remember that appreciation will make the difference between being in a state of well being, or feeling deficient.  It is very subtle, and important to be explicit with your self in appreciating the hunger to eat this kind of soulful food in a culture that doesn’t really support it very often.  Be as generous as possible to give statements of appreciation for your hunger if it is there. If there is no hunger be gentle with yourself and see that trait in your family history and background.
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