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Linking Vulnerable Feelings to Core Needs

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Inquiry:  What are the most vulnerable feelings you have within your intimate relationship? (refer to Introspective Guides on Vulnerable Feelings and Core Needs), and determine the core need(s) is underneath?

Personal Integration: This practice can be done alone or with a friend, lover, or counselor. Take one to five minutes or longer to contemplate and answer the question. When done with another, it is essential that the listener remains neutral and encourages you by repeating this inquiry as needed to help maintain focus.  This critical question is one that many of us have never really explored.  The vulnerability is very paradoxical, and it is very important that you realize that the key to finding fulfillment, strength and well-being is dependent on accessing our vulnerability.  This gives us key clues as to what is most important in our lives that are somehow eluding us. 
Inquiry 2:  What is the core need(s) underneath the vulnerability that you have discovered?  (refer to Introspective Guides on Vulnerable Feelings and Core Needs)
Personal Integration 2: Follow the same instructions as above in the monologue or repeating question format.  This relationship of connecting our vulnerability to our core needs is one of the most critical understandings we can have in deepening our capacity for intimacy and love.  Use the guides provided to help identify which need or needs are the ones that are connected to your vulnerable feelings.  For example when you are sad you have some kind of need for happiness.  When you are frightened you have a need to be safe or courageous.  When you are anxious you need to find some way of finding trust, peace or relaxation.  When you can identify what it is that you need, you can articulate that to your partner, and vice versa, rather than just staying in silent dissatisfaction.  As in this video with Dave, when he realized what he needed, a great relief happened, and it is true for all of us.
Inquiry 3:  What are the three most important needs that would create more intimacy in your love life?
Personal Integration 3: Follow the same instructions as above in the monologue or repeating question format.  The contemplation of being aware of your most essential needs with your partner gives you the ability to articulate what frequently is left in the shadows of your unconscious.  Let yourself reflect and contemplate with the help of the Introspective Guides the major needs that when met, would most support your heart to open.
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